tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12780015.post113224001995745522..comments2023-10-21T02:54:19.549-07:00Comments on Muley's World: Prep School PanhandlerMuleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13882951100904694353noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12780015.post-1132540541070381982005-11-20T18:35:00.000-08:002005-11-20T18:35:00.000-08:00I don't think it's abuse per se, not alone, but I ...I don't think it's abuse per se, not alone, but I also wouldn't do it. I have not found humilation to be a very effective tactic (and I admit to having tried it with students). I have found education about what happens when you don't get good grades quite effective with my students: having them draw up a budget, calculate pay, etc. Most effective would probably be personal example--so yeah, I prefer the idea of volunteering at a shelter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12780015.post-1132372347556131872005-11-18T19:52:00.000-08:002005-11-18T19:52:00.000-08:00Hilarious!I work at a group home for teenage girls...Hilarious!<BR/>I work at a group home for teenage girls and I'm trying to convince my boss we need to give this a try...Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12595343570589370305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12780015.post-1132333152292809562005-11-18T08:59:00.000-08:002005-11-18T08:59:00.000-08:00I was rather talkative and curious as a child, and...I was rather talkative and curious as a child, and that was removed through the art of gentle threats and guilt trips.<BR/>I also saw my parents at school, where they volunteered, at least 3 days a week. They also knew my principal, my extracurricular instructors and my assistant principal on a first-name "how's your uncle these days?" basis. <BR/>There was no opportunity to act up. I'd have had my butt in a sling and neither parent had qualms about doing it in front of the whole school.<BR/>I'd say if you can build your kids up when they're accomplishing something as passionately as you tear them down when they jeopardize themselves and others, you haven't done nearly as poorly as a parent as most parents of Gen Y would believe<BR/> Their kids are coddled and sheltered, spoiled and made to believe the whole world owes them for their very existence.<BR/> As a result, they do just enough to make the cut, and put no extra effort into school, work or social advancement. And they expect props for it.<BR/>I hate that kind of parenting, because now I have to work with those kids three days a week. All the whining has damaged my hearing.jenAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14160467673114640243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12780015.post-1132246735862810402005-11-17T08:58:00.000-08:002005-11-17T08:58:00.000-08:00The problem with the "catch your child being good"...The problem with the "catch your child being good" schtick is that it is only half of a solution. You've also got to catch them being bad and educate them as to what their behaviour ought to be. Don't get me wrong - rewarding good behaviour is very important and shouldn't be neglected - but creative discipline can also be vitally important!<BR/><BR/>It sounds to me like this mom has tried a lot of things already - removing priveliges and the suchlike - and while I would have probably required community service at a shelter or having the girl volunteer to help in an adult literacy program as ways of teaching the same message, I don't think that this qualifies as abusive. It all comes down to how well this Mom knows her daughter...for some, this could be the perfect way to teach this lesson, for others, the humiliation would cause lasting bad feeling and possibly damage the mother-daughter relationship permanently.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03787892622804373968noreply@blogger.com